On the vulnerability & courage of asking for help: A personal note from Jova
It can be very tough asking for help—perhaps because of the personal fears that arise from making such a vulnerable action:
- The fear of feeling dependent upon others; afraid to acknowledge we are not strong enough to do things ourselves
- The fear of rejection; afraid that somebody will not find it worth their while to help us
- And in some strange scenarios, afraid of actually getting what we want and fearing the weight of the responsibility that comes with it
I admit, I’ve been afraid of all these things at different moments in my life. Yet, from experience, I know a couple of truths capable of dissolving each one of those fears:
1) It’s okay to acknowledge when we need help; self-awareness can be the difference between staying somewhere you don’t want to be for a long period of time until (if) you figure a way out OR being humble enough to ask for help when you need it and find a more immediate way to move forward
2) The fear of rejection is self-sabotage; we refuse to sometimes even act upon our dreams because we fear we might not be good enough to achieve them. Isn’t striving for them the only way to find out? And isn’t pursuing our dreams in itself a worthy use of our time while we’re alive?
3) If we fear the responsibility of getting what we want, do we actually deserve getting it? If the responsibility feels like it’s too much, then the dream must not be as important to us as we think it is. So the real question to ask ourselves is: how much do our dreams mean to us?
It’s been almost three years that I’ve been running The Artidote and all of its channels solely, as a passion project and on my own spare time/resources with no monetary gains whatsoever. Today, it has become a community of hundreds of thousands of people across the world that, in the best of situations, has saved lives with the support we’ve offered one another. The Artidote, I feel, has become something bigger than myself at this point — and it’s a cause I would love to dedicate my full time and energy to.
Personally, 2018 is the year I decided to let go of all the fears I mentioned above. Even if I experience the feeling of rejection going forward, I simply do not want to live with these fears for the rest of my life and, on my deathbed, regret not having pursued my dreams. Especially when it comes to my biggest and most challenging dream right now: incorporating The Artidote as a non-profit organization, begin producing unique content in the form of videos & podcasts as resources for its community and begin establishing Artidote chapters in cities across the world — communities that will come together in real life to empathize, bond and heal through storytelling, the way it’s been happening online throughout the years. All of this requires resources that I currently do not have and, more importantly, it requires an effort that cannot be achieved if I hold on to my fears. After all, this has been a passion project that began and has been fueled by love—and in love there is no space for fear.
So today I let go of my fears and courageously acknowledge that I can’t do this alone; that I need help. Today I take on all the responsibility that this dream deserves because it means that much—and more—to me. Today I wish that you also find this dream worthwhile and I humbly and sincerely ask for your help in making it a reality.
Let’s take The Artidote to the next level, together <3
Today I take on all the responsibility that this dream deserves because it means that much—and more—to me. Today I wish that you also find this dream worthwhile and I humbly and sincerely ask for your help in making it a reality.